Do you ever have those moments? Do you ever have those days? Do you ever have those nights? Weeks? Or months? The ones where it feels like nothing can go right...that no matter what you do, no matter what you try, it doesn't seem to get any better? Do you think, "When am I going to find my dream career? My dream guy? Or my dream?" or "When is everything I've worked so long and hard for going to finally pay off?" or "When have all I sacrificed going to turn my wants into my reality?"
Well, for me, as I'm sure for many others, when all of these times and questions keep happening, they eventually lead to a crying session. I had one of these last night....Don't get me wrong, they don't happen often, and they shouldn't. I was in the shower, which is where mine always happen (because I tend to do most of my deep thinking in the shower), when all of sudden the emotions took control.
I cried for what seemed like about 15 minutes, when it was only two minutes. I asked myself questions like, "When are my sacrifices going to pay off." "Why can't I find a good guy?" and "Why don't I have the career that I want, yet?" My two-minute cries ten tend to involve the same questions, because, after all, these are the things that continuously probe my mind.
I feel that I've made sacrifices in my life in order for me to have the dream career that I want. I could have a really great job, making a good amount of money, but really not following my passion. In doing that, I could have had the opportunity to meet more men than I currently do. I could have had a career, maybe not the one I truly want, but I would be more financially stable.....But would I have be slowly dying at a career that I really don't enjoy?
After about two minutes (okay, if it's really bad, you can give yourself 2 1/2 minutes) of crying about whatever issues are going on in your life, you need to snap yourself out of it. If you don't, the crying session, can and likely will, last for hours, if you let it.
How do you talk yourself out of it? Well, start thinking of things in your life that you enjoy, like, and love. I started thinking of how I just achieved one of my major accomplishments, finishing my business plan. Now, for those of you who have never done a business plan, it is so much more time consuming and difficult than you might think. It takes time, patience, and determination. You have to be diligent and able to research, research, and research. It took me three months to finish, and then I got it revised. It took me another three months to finish it and have it ready for investors, which brings me to my next point.
My next thought in the shower, to talk myself out of the two-minute cry, is that I am going to get investors for my company. It may take me more time than I originally thought, but I KNOW it will happen. I just keep thinking positive thoughts, I will get money from investors, and I will find the man of my dreams. I know people will say it won't happen, but I have full confidence in it all. Believing in yourself is all you need to get you through the two-minute cry or really anything in life. Just believe in what you are doing and yourself!
When you feel the two-minute cry coming on, it's okay. Let it out, let it go. Don't worry about holding it all in, because if you do, sooner or later, it will happen anyways. So cry, cry, cry...for two minutes. When two minutes is up, snap out of it. Think of all of the good things in your life...your spouse, your kids, your family, your friends, you career...whatever it is that is going well in your life. No one has a perfect life. Remember yours can always be worse, because someone right now is living a worse life than you, and they still manage to get up each and every day. Remain positive and put out into the world, what you want to get.
A two-minute cry can help to rejuvenate yourself, your soul, and your mind. Keep the cry to a minimum, don't let it gain control of you, or you will lose control...and make sure you don't have the two-minute cry too often. Also, keep in mind, what you put out into the world is what the world is giving back to you. The more negative thoughts you think, the more negative things that happen to you. So, keep the positive thoughts flowing, keep believing in yourself, and things will go your way. All the questions that led up to the two-minute cry, will soon disappear...and the only time you'll be shedding tears are happy tears, because all your dreams have come true.